Whale / Whole

2 min readJul 5, 2022


Sperm whale (Physeter macrocephalus) from Natural history of the cetaceans and other marine mammals of the western coast of North America (1872) by Charles Melville Scammon (1825–1911).

You are not too much. You just went through a lot. And sometimes people won’t understand your struggle.

You survive some of the hardest things that human can face. It was fierce, intense, and painful. Be proud of what you are today. Most of us will choose the easy way, to give up, and stop being alive. Right now, you’re a survivor and I understand if you expect total love, total attention and anything less is unacceptable.

You are the epitome of power struggle. You won and right now you don’t need anyone. It’s understandable that sometimes all of your standards make you a painfully overbearing person to be around, especially in relationships. Because you know how hard it is to be in a bad one. And now you just want to be loved. perfectly .

I realize that you just want to have one person that loves you with all their might. But sometimes it hurts and stresses you out in the process, especially when you don’t get their best in return, or even a semblance of gratitude or joy. You give all of yourself while your partner sometimes doesn’t even have the same standart.

Like Whales in the ocean. Being alone, majestic and gigantic. Just because you are different from others, doesn’t mean you are too much or a nuisance. You are just unique in your own way. Some people will find you overbearing, but some will love you with whatever you are. Just like people love whales.

Whales are social, air breathing mammals, they feed their babies with their own milk, and they take extraordinarily good care of their young and teach them life skills. Many of us believe whales are special; they certainly invoke a sense of wonder and a feeling of kinship.

There is something almost other-worldly about them. Whales enrich the lives of many people who come into contact with them. Whales are unique, beautiful, graceful and mysterious; they nurture, bond, play, sing and cooperate with one another.

I believe that you will get the love you deserve. The love that feels genuine and true. Like star above the palace during summer. Clear and giving you hope you never had before. The kind of love that makes you fall asleep.

I know that you will get true love that kind and easy. Love that makes you feel comfortable and warm. Love that makes you feel as if you arrived at your grandmother’s house and the smell of your favorite food greeted you at the door. Love that is easy to be with.

It hurts because you care and often the truth isn’t always pretty. But I want you to know that you are not hard to love. You’re not too much.